November is a time to be grateful, yet with so many people concerned about the market it might be hard to be. I used to think when people told me to have an attitude of gratitude it meant to just look at all the good things I had to be grateful for when something bad was happening. So in essence, try and replace my negative emotional response or reaction by focusing on my family, an upcoming vacation or anything else positive. What I found was it never worked long time.
What true grateful living is involves being grateful for all experiences, good or bad. So as you endure something hard or traumatic, you simply ask, “What is great about this?” It can be one of the hardest habits we adopt, yet the most powerful one. It will help you fully embrace the idea that life is happening for you. You see every frustration, disappointment or pissed off moment as an opportunity for growth rather than a block to your happiness.
Here are some tips for putting this into practice immediately:
- When you are emotionally triggered, seek to take a few minutes to either think about or journal about the experience and find at least one to two reasons you can be grateful for what happened.
Example: Client calls/e-mails complaint about your communication. They had expected to hear from you and not your assistant. You’re pissed originally because they raved about the assistant. You become grateful for their feedback because you recognize you can change expectations upfront and provide a communication outline in writing.
- Create a gratitude list. For some people, cultivating more gratitude needs to become a habit. I recommend journaling daily, but for those of you who don’t want to just grab a notebook and everyday write one to five things you are grateful for. Focus on both the challenges you faced along with the wins you had. When you have a tough day, go back and read past entries.
Just implementing these two habits may change your life! We get what we focus on! In this industry we face a lot of pressure, so it is important we offset it with gratitude.